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If you don’t like yourself, who else will?
To quote Ralph Waldo Emerson, “Self-trust is the first secret to success.”
Have you ever hesitated at an opportunity to meet someone new because you lacked confidence?
Confidence is knowing that you are worthy of whatever it is you’re striving to have in your life, whether it’s a great career or a life-long love.
Many of us wish we had more confidence to go after what we dream about. Unfortunately, we all have ideas of unworthiness growing in the gardens of our minds.
Perhaps we think we’re not good enough, smart enough or pretty or handsome enough to attract the kind of partner we want. We may have an unconscious belief that we don’t really deserve to be adored or happy.
Some people are born naturally confident, but for most of us, it’s a practice that we need to cultivate. We may have been brought up to constantly engage in critical and judgmental thinking, both of others and ourselves, so we don’t know how to be confident.
“What will they think of me?” we ask, whenever we are forced outside of our comfort zone. “I can’t do this. I’m going to feel ridiculous.” Our subconscious is the constant critic that undermines our efforts to be more authentic.
However, there is good news. We can actually use the subconscious as an ally to plant images in our minds that will help us embody more confidence and feel more relaxed and calm when we’re around someone we’re attracted to. We can re-program the subconscious mind to develop a self-image and self-esteem that is more congruent with who we really are.
The subconscious can’t tell the difference between something that’s imagined or real.
Under hypnosis, when someone is told that a hot coal is being placed on their arm, they’ll raise a welt even though the hot coal is really an ice cube. You can vividly imagine being embarrassed at something that happened 20 years ago, and our cheeks will flush and turn red, even though it’s not happening now.